Anyone who says that rape and sexual assault allegations don’t have any impact on men’s lives needs to look at the facts. Our nation has condemned a serial sexual abuser who has long been plagued by assault and rape allegations to run the entire country. So the next time you think that sexually assaulting women doesn’t ruin men’s lives, reach out to the rapist in your life and see how he’s doing. Gainfully employed lawyer, doctor, corporate executive, father, president of the United States? Think of what they’re going through.

Obviously, rape allegations do ruin men’s lives, because now one particular rapist has to bear the ultimate burden: listening to JD Vance speak for the next four years.

But more so than that, we need to have empathy for the great responsibility that this sexual assaulter now bears. Imagine how much stress he must be under, not from the guilt or shame of mistreating countless women, but the weight of having to sign legal documents with his full name using an actual pen? Ugh.

Furthermore, some point to the president-elect and unjustly claim that being a convicted felon doesn’t ruin men’s lives. Well, clearly, being a convicted felon has ruined this man’s life. Have you seen the house he has to spend another four years in? His seventy-eight-year-old knees will hardly be able to take the pressure of constantly getting up to find the remote. Even worse, have you seen how many doors there are in the White House?

It’s tragic, really.

Some would say powerful men bounce back from bankruptcy without any long-term implications. Well, I encourage you to look to the new president for proof that is not the case. Despite filing for multiple bankruptcies, he is now burdened with the sheer weight of a $400,000-a-year salary. When you think about how bad of an investor businessman he is, you begin to realize how cruel this country is to men who are bad with money, rape women, and are convicted of multiple felonies

To those who say being a compulsive and pathological liar doesn’t ruin men’s lives, have you ever lied so much that you ended up running a country? Now, he has to keep lying for another four years. Do you understand how difficult it is for this man to pretend he cares about the people who voted for him? I cannot fathom the stress of having to put your own needs first when millions of people think they can count on you to save them. It’s a fate worse than being banished to Trump Tower.

Not only do the men who surround themselves with liars, grifters, racists, and misogynists face dire consequences, but the liars, grifters, racists, and misogynists suffer just as much. They all have jobs now. They have to spend the next four years making big, important decisions for all the educated, honest, discerning women who are too stupid to make any choices about their own bodies. Imagine how these men must feel. I, for one, am glad not to be in their position.

And the rapist’s opponent, a highly educated woman who has worked in multiple branches of government for decades, who has devoted her life to doing her best to fight for Americans everywhere, who surrounds herself with eloquent, honest, non-felon-convicted civil servants, now snagged herself a four-year vacation. She won’t even have to make decisions about her own body anymore. She can rest easy at night knowing that Supreme Court–installed zealots will make the important choices for her.

Women got off easy this time around. Men who have made grave mistakes in their life, lied, cheated, stolen, obstructed democracy, and raped are punished with the weight of having to try and figure out which hole a tampon goes in. We should all be so grateful.

The only thing that ruins women’s lives? Being born.